Every couple must work it so so that each partner gets what they need when needed.

We have been together 41 years. When we were younger, we made an agreement, if I’m sleep, please feel free to cuddle me, wake me up or to hit it anyway.

Why did we do this? In addition to very aggressive libidos, we had two very active children, parents nearby, rough jobs, and I was in college. We were very, very tired. The “hit it when needed” arrangement worked for us.