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No Box Can Contain Your Grief, but Maybe This One Can Help You Understand It
Losing a loved one is a pain that never goes away.
I’m randomly grief-stricken by my mom’s death. It’s not an everyday occurrence. It occurs less and less over time, but the pain is still strong whenever it happens. She has been dead for over twenty years.
I was watching a retrospective on Rap music. A video of the rapper, Big Daddy Kane, came on. It transported me through time. My eyes filled with tears.
My mom loved that video because it reminded her of my son, her grandson. She would show that darn video to anyone who came to visit her. I must have seen it one-hundred thousand times.
About a year ago, a tweet by @LaurenHerschel captured the feeling and power of grief well. @LaurenHerschel’s tweet gave me a framework to understand how I can feel so much pain regarding my mom’s death after so much time has passed.
I forwarded the tweet to a few of my friends. We discussed it. All of us agreed that it provided a different perspective of the flashbacks…
