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Romance Lessons
The Challenge Of Dating Men Who Still Live With Their Parents
No one wants a relationship with these baby men
There are men who no one wants because of their behavior. Many of these men are the creations of their parents. The parents complain about how these men stay with them and won’t leave.
Why Is He So Spoiled?
Many parents still prefer sons. They dote on their sons and rarely mention their girls. I had a work colleague who surprised me when I met his family. I thought he only had sons; that was all he talked about. It turned out he had four children, two boys and two girls. The girls were invisible in his conversations.
“Recorded history demonstrates the preference for sons in every aspect of life. Today, despite being considered a powerful manifestation of gender inequality and discrimination against women, the preference for sons over daughters is still prevalent worldwide.” National Library Of Medicine, Son preference and the health disparities in developing countries
Families were more welcoming to boys than girls. These are the sons who could do no wrong.
These boys learned that boys are better than girls. Boys can be anything, while girls…well, you know.
These men were raised in a household where girls did all the housework while boys played sports. Some of these men can not cook for themselves.
The men may not have jobs. They are living with mom and dad.
They do not want to contribute to the parent's household even if they have jobs. The parents have always taken care of them, and the men do not want that to change.
The men do not want to follow any cultural relationship rules they did not make.
They behave like they did as children, expecting someone to clean up their messes. They expect their cooked food to be ready when they want it and clean laundry to appear before them without effort.
As they live with their parents, the little boy’s behavior continues. The parents tolerate it.
