I want you only for tonight
We Can Have Casual Sex If I Don’t Have to Talk To You
One of my nieces lives in Southern California. She is twenty-four, a college graduate, working for money-she does not have the job she loves yet. She called to tell me about a young man she met at a restaurant and wanted to know what I thought about her attitude.
The man was sitting at another table in a mostly empty place. He came over and asked if she wanted company. He was visually stunning. Tall, dark, clean, smelling delicious, built nice, polite. It was lust at first sight.
There was just one thing wrong. He was as dumb as a sack of hammers. She thinks he has never had to make an effort. He lacked social skills like many very attractive people; folks give them leeway to make mistakes and still be successful.
She said his conversation was riddled with inaccuracies. She thought talking to him would lower her intelligence. Still, she accepted a date from him and brought him to her home after that first date to have sex with him.
“In essence, casual sex is a way of enjoying the physical intimacy of sex without the emotional, practical, or romantic components of love or a committed relationship.” verywellmind.com, What Is the Impact of Casual Sex on Mental Health?
She made sure he wrapped it up. She will not miss a single birth control pill in the next thirty days. Who wants a beautiful but dumb child? She doesn’t. After that, she met him for coffee to tell him he was not the one for her. It was not him. It was all about her and her issues. He understood.
We laughed at how easy it was for her to do what she did. In my younger days, we were not as practical. Every date was with those who had some chance to become our life mates because that was what we sought. I admit that sometimes, rarely, we had sex for pure fun, but 99% of the time, men were evaluated on if they could be a suitable partner for us. If not, we left them alone.
The way it is now is much better. I told her I thought she had been smart about her wants and choices. It can be mentally healthy to have casual SEX.
“For me, if you go into a sexual situation viewing it as a fun…